Couples Therapy in an Abusive Relationship Doesn't Work
Let's talk. Therapy. First of all, I am in NO way trying to give advice here. I am not an expert, just someone who believes in therapy and has also come to understand recently where sometimes therapy can be harmful in a toxic/abusive relationship. But don't get me wrong. I love me a good therapist! I have one, my kids have their own. Overall, 10 out of 10 would recommend. However, hindsight is 20/20. So I want to share with you all my experience with therapists pre and post divorce, and unpack with you all why in an abusive relationship it just doesn't work. My ex husband and I went through 4 therapists together. We did premarital counseling (which convinced me that we were starting on a rock-solid foundation), and then went through 3 different marriage counselors. Through out this time, I on and off went to individual therapy, and also put my son into therapy starting at age 4. (My daughter was a baby at this point... so she only needed therapy post divorce as she continu...