Finding Fault
On the same day that my divorce was finalized I got in a car crash. Airbags deployed...car smashed up, ambulance called, a CT scan...the whole shebang. After it happened, and after paramedics assessed that I was okay, and tow trucks came, police were on hand to to figure out whose fault it was. They took witness statements, they took my statement and the other driver's statement and then they make a decision and issued (in this case) a citation to the other driver. And while divorce doesn't come with citations issued (though sometime I wish it did!) the process feels very similar. Just like the crash, divorce results in total loss, (see my post about the carnage it creates) and after making sure everyone comes out (reasonably) okay the question quickly turns to whose fault it was. Usually witnesses are called forward who will gladly corroborate the story you are spinning (everyone has an opinion in these circumstance) and they will find a million and one reasons why ...