Marriage As A House
This last and final time that him and I went to marriage therapy the therapist (who I will be forever grateful to) gave us an illustration of a house and said that the marriage relationship we had built over the last seven years was much like building a house. Complete with footings, foundation, floors, and furnishings. (Isn't that alliteration fun?) The idea of home building was not a new concept to us because during the months that we were in counseling we had undertaken a massive home remodeling project where almost all of our 2700 square feet of house changed in some way or another. Some of it was cosmetic...some of it mechanical, some of it brand new and some of the house we completely gutted. The term "gutted" and its connection to the analogy that my therapist used of a marriage being a house is important. The term gutted is this idea that you take all the innards of something and rip them out so you have a clean slate. This is what we did to the kitchen, ...